She was Stuck. She was Frozen. She Thought She Would Die.

​​She was Stuck. She was Frozen.
She Thought She Would Die.

This Blog attempts to explains how it feels to go from fear to love in how we lead our lives, the benefits of doing so, the triggers that come up as we let go of old ways, and why having outlets and supports during this time can make all the difference. 

Let me tell you a story. The Grandmothers know you by name. They sing to you when you are sleeping, nudge you when you do not know which way to turn. They comfort you when you cry. As your eyes well up and overflow, so too does unconditional love as they look upon you. They nod in all-knowing. For each tear brings forth the river of life. Your tears beloved Soul, it’s some of your best work. You were never alone but you feel that way. We each must be our own hero. Feeling alone is the most deep cut wound of humanness. The Grandmothers understand. They went first. They opened locked doors and kept the lanterns on. They know you’re not done with the wilderness. The wilderness is not done with you. It’s your sacred journey. You must go on and the Grandmothers walk with you. 

There is productive pain. There is also pain that is less productive; suffering. We are not meant to suffer. I stand by that. Now I’ve the life experience to go with the hunch; it gets easier when we follow what feeds us. It’s not productive to stay in anything that is chronically undermining us, hurting us, causing us to doubt ourselves, or break us down. If any person, job, commitment, internal coping mechanism, self-talk or resistance, is feeling this way then take notice.  Please treat it with the same urgency that you would if you got sick. Because when we are not aligned with our Essential Selves and stay in unbearable situations too long, (internally, externally or both) sick is exactly what many of us will become. It happened to me in a major way, twice over. 

Wellness and Empowerment Coaching with Somatic Healing, is made to be a safe, uplifting and inspiring way to lean into what is calling you. We don’t have many safe places in these crazy times. It is still considered a luxury to ‘follow your bliss,’ or worse, to even just take care of yourself in the most basic of ways. Like putting yourself first for once. I disagree that this is a luxury. It is our responsibility.

As you lean into what is calling from within, you will become well again. In this wellness your gifts unfold. Giving from your calling, loving from your calling, choosing from your calling- this will restore you. Not to mention it will give back tenfold! It is practical to listen to your energy. So, what feeds you? What feels good and right, aligned in your body and soul? This is how you recognize it is your path. Yes, it is brave and uncomfortable to trail-blaze away from our sick and broken societal norms. How dare you explore what you REALLY want and need?!?!

‘Hush Aodh, impossible! PFFT. Haven’t you read the news? Seen my bills? Thought about the consequence of telling a woman to be single after all this time, understand ANYTHING about motherhood, the never-ending hamster wheel of trying to survive? What planet do you live on? You sound pretty privileged,' etc. 'IMPOSSIBLE!' 

Having a life that feeds you is no more impossible than the miracle of the day you were born and incarnated here in earthly form. Your dreams, your core wiring and desires, they run through you like a map for you to follow. It’s as guaranteed as your body knows how to keep you alive. It is your destiny calling, but you have the free will to fight or deny it. 

​Where your energy goes, so to does the healing path to get you there. 

Grace never abandons a single soul. She keeps loving vigil upon you when you are frozen in place. She may cry for you when you refuse to listen to yourself, even turning your head and walking the other way. She gently whispers her homecoming prayers as your mind explodes with over-thinking and  justifications about why suffering is a good thing. 
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I was stuck too. I turned my head and looked the other way. I was not even conscious of denying Grace. But in all my dysfunction and lost years, the darkness gave me humility. F pride. There had to be a better way. I wanted help. So I got it. And I continue to get it. My needs change and evolve. I am not saying everyone needs a Coach or Somatic Practitioner. Maybe you’ve done more than enough of that. Maybe you prefer groups, nature walks, or books. But whatever you do, CHOOSE YOU. It’s why you came here. It’s worth it. You deserve it. From the moment you choose you, (or choose you AGAIN because we all get lost,) your pain will be the productive kind. Growing pains; you will feel the stretch, agitation, anxiety, discomfort and expansion as you become your Soul’s true size. You’ll feel the grief as you say goodbye to what no longer serves you. You’ve waited, God knows you’ve tried, long and hard enough to turn a no into a yes. Now you’re making room for your Essential Self, and with that comes some benefits:​
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Ready for it?

It’s an unbearable sense of being held and supported by something much greater than you alone, and yet something that knows you better than any human alive. It’s vitality and energy. It’s deeper meaning, value, connection, love and JOY. Joy? I didn’t believe that particular promise either. But the lights popping in the dark all around us are undeniable proof. It’s your turn to light up the sky, my love… 

She was stuck. She did not know how to continue. 

​Grace held out her hand. She took it and said yes, I will come with you. Grace did smile upon her. And she could swear, the Grandmothers laughed with whole belly laughs, danced, and sang.

​Did this resonate with you?

This is what I assist people with. I work with my clients to move from a fear operating system to a love operating system. The piece above describes how scary it is, how safe you really are, and how much worse it will be if you do not to heal and operate from love.

For thirty years (including my Dark Night lasting over a decade,) I was being prepared to be a testimony and guide for others. Many of the people I am here to support are also meant to be guides with your own testimonies to share. Now is the time for us to find each other. There is a collective urgency that we make our life choices from love. If you feel I am meant to support you on your journey, reach out. Sign up for a free 20 minute Discovery Call or learn more about what I offer. Click the Coaching  button below. If someone you love would resonate with my work, please connect us.

No more suffering in the dark. It is time for everyone to find what we need to rise. I am with you in this, shoulder to shoulder. May you be blessed, emboldened, and follow your heart.  Love Aodh

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