Dear Beloveds, 

It’s Winter Solstice, the darkest day of the year. All creation starts in darkness. So what a perfect time to tell you this: You are the gift this holiday season. It’s you. You are the big, sacred, special, all lit up present that we give pause to give thanks for. It’s you.

As we enter the holidays, and the bridge to the New Year, you deserve to take a moment and honor yourself. Think about how far you’ve come. Think about the unbeatable odds you beat. Think about how you found yourself through the darkness and delivered yourself, more than once. And if you attribute this to God, then at least acknowledge your willingness to reach for and listen to God. You found a way back to the light, to shine with every smile, every tear, faced fear, and each moment you stood up for yourself. Every single new day. Every time you took the high road. None of it was easy. 

How you’ve grown. 

How you’ve risen. 

How you’re still here. 

I don’t care that it was messy. Of course it was. Our most miraculous moments are often our most raw, vulnerable and real. You did that, you kept going. You made it to the other side - every - single - ducking - day. I said ducking Mom, it’s safe to keep reading. 

Gratitude is a tricky thing. And with the amount of pain we’ve faced and adversity we’re in, forced gratitude can be just another thing that we feel like we must deliver and come up short. But your life is actually FOR you. Your life belongs to you. You deserve to feel magic, and awe, like a kid again! You deserve to feel the appreciation and wonderment for yourself that you so easily give others. So if you are going to be grateful for anything start with being grateful for yourself. Make these Holidays FOR you in whatever ways you can. This is Self-Love in action. For you are not a machine. You are not a peg on a wheel. You are a luminous light being incarnate on earth to know and love yourself. 

And a note for the mothers, empaths, sensitives, caretakers, activists, and all my sisters and brothers who are worried about the state of the world - 

The best thing you can do for our suffering loved ones, community and world is to love yourself, fill up your cup, & follow your instincts. 

“Aodh, What do you mean follow my instincts? What does that have to do with anything?” I mean like Wayne Dyer said, “We are spiritual beings having a human experience.” But often we treat ourselves as taskmasters. Then we condemn ourselves when we struggle to complete those never ending tasks. We may feel self judgement, shame, or worthlessness when we can’t keep up with our ideas, shoulds, ‘responsibilities’, plans, commitments, agendas and to do lists. 

You are more than what you ‘think’ you need to accomplish.  

You are not your thoughts or your conditioning. 

So go deeper. 

YOU ARE A DIVINE SOUL. 

YOU ARE THE GIFT. 

THIS IS YOUR LIFE AND YOU DESERVE TO BE WELL.

Listen to your feelings, your rage, your sadness, your anxiety, your physicality, your exhaustion. Do not suppress or override your true experience! Your instincts are guiding you to a life that is actually good for you. Your instincts - and intuitive guidance in the cells of these somatic expressions - are guiding you to a more illuminated path that will heal you, and thus as I always like to remind you, will heal others too. 

You have come a long way. 

You made it through so much. 

You don’t have to repeat

anything where you suffer. 

You know this. This is exactly what you would tell your best friend. But freedom and healing always starts with the Self. You can’t give what you won’t receive. 

How about making 2026 your turn?

Set those boundaries. Protect that peace. Some of you may even ferociously course correct your life! Choose the creativity that enlivens you. Cancel the commitments that drain you. Stop participating in what numbs you. Lean into the purpose that beckons you. Love the people who are good for you - and more than anything - BE YOURSELF. Nobody, not even AI, can better YOU dear. You are irreplicable, your heart, soul, and true-self. Your personality.  That's all you. Nobody can do what you do, baby. 

Don’t abandon yourself. 

We need you. 

YOU DUCKING NEED YOU.  

You are the gift this holiday season, revel in it, explore your unique colors, vibes, needs, quirks, joys, and choose yourself. Choose in this New Year the paths that are worthy of you, and uniquely made as Your True North Home. 

2026 Homeward Bound, 

 ❤️‍🔥 Aodh 

PS. Below you will find two gifts! Happy Holidays and Happy New Year!

​​This new video series is Holiday Life Support. It’s here to give you hugs, a few laughs, and encouragement to make the holidays feel like yours.  Solidarity. Me too. 

I was alone for many, many holidays. I worked numbly through many more. I know what that’s like. I know what it’s like to be the black sheep. I how much pain and loneliness can come up this season no matter how our circumstances ‘appear.’ I am a recovering people pleaser and it was a struggle to learn boundaries over the years. And to my roots, my fellow Empaths and Sensitives, it is NOT easy being a healer in a crowded room. You know exactly what I am talking about. It’s time for the SACRED TAKE BACK. We Rise. 

New for me, present as a touchy feely Empath , I am learning how to serve the collective this Christmas - without draining my cup. I’ve joined The Resistance. But how does someone like me even DO THAT!? Have you been aching to make change for humanity too, but on your terms?  Follow me on YouTube. This will be a HUGE THEME in 2026. 

If you can relate to any of this, even just one little part, this series for you. 🙏

 ♥️ Aodh 

Ps. This is a year of travel for me and I am learning how to work remotely. Making videos is a deep expression of my heart, the missing link to keep my small business afloat while in motion, AND, I am still getting used to the camera. Any support you can show my YouTube channel: liking, subscribing, passing this channel on, will be DEEPLY appreciated. THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU. 

Have you considered working with me 1:1? Or coming back for more sessions? If so, here is my heartfelt holiday gift to make working together more accessible - It’s a five Session Holiday Package for $600! (((( This is $150 off )))) I don’t usually do this. 

 👉 Must be purchased by January 21, 2026. 

 👉 Only 5 Holiday Packages available. First Come First Serve. 

 👉 Sessions are an Hour and Twenty Minutes each, over Zoom or the phone. 

 👉 Must be used within 6 months of purchase & are non-refundable. 

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When we act from fear we give our power away. 
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When we are in the energy of love, we are able to be flexible. We are able to sustain an internal sense of safety that nobody can F with. Seeing as there is so much trauma and drama at the moment, personally I've needed to go on the love offensive, take a more active role, MOVE the energy! Shift that sh*t. 

I’ve been remembering WHAT I love. I’m prioritizing creative expression. We are powerful when we create. When we are in a state of love our energy frequency is higher. This attracts a mirror of help and support from the universe. We’re amplified. So whatever it is that fills you up, do it. Make space for it. Remember this, even the smallest step changes your momentum. You are making a statement to the universe that is anything but small  when you do something for yourself, something that makes you feel better. It says: ​
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I MATTER. 


THIS THING I LOVE MATTERS. 


LOVE, FEEL-GOOD ENERGY, WELLBEING MATTERS. 


I CHOOSE IT NOW. ​

​My mother's generation was taught to take care of everyone else first. That message has been changing. Having a sense of Self, and taking care of it, is important. But with towns and cities disappearing overnight in hurricanes, fires, war and genocide, an oligarchy worse then we’ve ever seen, our civil and human rights disappearing through ominous and corrupt politics, and it being harder then EVER to get by, how on earth CAN we take care of ourselves? What privilege is this? And why would we even bother? 

This article addresses the questions above. More importantly, if we do not connect to our sense of Self, and strengthen our ability to go within, it puts us at a dangerous disadvantage. Because in the New World our intuition will be the only lantern of truth in the fogs and storms of illusion.
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​How do we navigate uncharted waters? Read this piece. 👇🏼
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UNCHARTED
How to Navigate the New World 

My mother's generation was taught to take care of everyone else first. That message has been changing. Although, the conditioning of self-sacrifice, and the multigenerational trauma it has caused, has hurt all of us.  It still takes a toll. Those wounds run deep. The message that it's selfish to put ourselves first shames and scars. 

At least the word is getting out. Coaches, Healers and thought leaders  have been telling us to take care of ourselves for decades now. It’s been trending. Me too. I’m a broken record, and for myself too:  Self-Care! Self-Love!  The ‘how-to’ felt complicated before. Goal upon goal upon goal. Strategy was involved. But now we enter the Quickening, a period of rapid change that has been predicted in many ancient teachings. With the ground shaking beneath our planetary collective, taking care of yourself is no longer just about you. It is the only way we will pull through, together. Audrey Lorde said it best: 
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As we enter a new world, the more complicated our lives, the more we will suffer. It’s time to throw the excess cargo overboard. Let’s navigate the waters ahead with clarity and precision. 

2025 is uncharted. We have, before each of us, an uncharted course. And you dear Captain, have what it takes. Inside of you is encoded the wisdom of the ancients, the dream of Jesus, Buddha, and every mystic who came before you. You posses an Internal Navigation System so profound, it puts the greatest teachers to shame. This is all inside of you, this IS YOU. We are all modern day mystics. We are the stuff of Source; sacred, profound, limitless, unconditional, infinite. But, you have to 1. make the choice and 2. do the work to tap into your Inner Knowing. 
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​Listen to yourself.

Before it seemed a luxury,

now it is the answer. ​

Dark forces do exist and must be exposed, dismantled, and held to account. I see our victory over the dark; our healing and rebuilding to honor humanity, mother earth, empathy and coexistence as One. Where as empathy and morality have been trampled on (and seen as weakness in our perverted modern times,) they will come to be the super powers that are revered beyond all others. The Diving Feminine will RISE again. And, She will save us. I see this. I always have. Many of you have too. 

Our Hearts and Souls are irreplaceable, they can never be improved upon. If modern man needs to be brought to his knees before he can accept that, then that is exactly where he will be, on his knees. But this blog is not about doom and gloom, nor am I!
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Once you decide to listen, make it a daily practice. Make it yours. Get creative with it. Develop and implement a practice to access your Internal Navigation System. Stay accountable and be consistent. Write it down, talk to your friends, hire a coach 🙋🏻.

My life changed when I made the commitment to get up early each morning to pray and be with Spirit. nothing has or will ever be the same. Before I had that daily practice, no matter how mindful I tried to be in other ways, I ended up feeling scattered and adrift. I was overwhelmed, easily paralyzed and endlessly distracted by what life presented. 

As you enter the uncertainty of the new world, attempting to build security outside of yourself is more futile than ever. You cannot take it with you. The only real security is within. As you make a practice of feeling at home inside of yourself, you may be surprised how safe and grounded you can become in the uncharted waters before you. 

What is the next best step? 

It's the one that feels illuminated.

It's the step you feel pulled towards,

despite what you think

or can understand. ​
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If you stay the course Captain, your Internal Navigation System will become a way of life. It will become rote, muscle memory. It's our minds that attempt to figure everything out. But relying on our thinking makes things worse. Our minds can be merciless taskmasters. Spirit does not work this way. In fact, (despite my own best attempts at forceful stubbornness), Spirit will only reveal a few steps at a time. Often, our Inner Knowing only shows us the next step! So relax.... (I tell myself, haha.) Focus on the step ahead and have faith. Trust this is enough. 
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Adversity can be a blessing in disguise. I know it's hard, and if I haven't lived these words I would not dare to utter them: If you take adversity as an opportunity to come home to yourself, to validate and strengthen your conscious healing journey, you will pull off miracles where it seemed impossible. Miracles, the flow state and that deep peace that comes from knowing you are in alignment with the calling of your Heart and Soul, will become your daily way of life.
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Uncharted waters

will feel like home.

They're a blank slate  

and an ocean full of love 

on the journey True North. ​

A Special Note If it's Hard Right Now 
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There are times when you feel lost. Sometimes life feels slow and stuck. Other times, everything changes in an instant. It all falls apart. There are certain things you just can't control. When you find yourself in a hard time, there's a good chance you could not have stopped it, nor prevented it. If you believe in destiny, maybe it was part of the plan.

If it's hard right now, trust you've been prepared, and that no matter what, you can prevail. If someone fucked with your Internal Navigation System and told you that you could not trust yourself, get support to fix the harm they caused. In these unprecedented times, nothing is more important than your confidence and ability to direct your life from your Inner Knowing. Get help healing your relationship with yourself. You deserve it. You don't have to do it alone. In, fact, we're not meant to. 

As you move forward, no matter how impossible it seems or unsteady you feel, trust yourself and your capacity to handle what is happening. You can do this. You can become sovereign (again). You can heal. You can feel peace. You are and have always been worthy. 

Your heart is where your home is. Your home is inside of you. The only navigation worth a damn comes from here. You detect your True North by being embodied, centered, grounded and prayerful. Being Heart and Soul Led is not understood by our ‘living from the head up’ culture, let alone has it  been valued by modern society. 

You are taught to be logical, to be smart about your life and your future. It is smart to prioritize safety and security, especially in these uncertain times. But these purely mental filters, and the skillsets that come through them, actually leave you more vulnerable and unsafe. The most dangerous thing to do is continue making plans or moving forward without the connection to your deep and profound internal guidance system. ​

Quite plainly, this disconnection from your authentic experience is the trauma of disassociation. Any ‘living’ you do from here, the choices you make, etc, perpetuates the drama and trauma cycles you so desperately want to heal. 

Only by being connected to the wisdom of your body, and the Felt Sense of your Essential Self, can you navigate towards true freedom, security, love, wellbeing, vitality and JOY! The healing journey from the head to the heart is entirely different than other forms of learning. 

The education of the intellect, talk therapy, any form of a pure external focus, self-knowledge, collecting and accumulating information, can actually be the biggest obstacle to union with your Heart and Soul. But how can this be? The mental focus of self-knowledge and self-growth was touted as the promise land for the healing journey. It’s all about self-care, right? 

Ahhhh, the ‘old paradigm healing journey’. There you would find me, for year after year after year. I had talked myself out in talk therapy. Yet I still hung to it like a life-line because I thought that was the only way to heal. I was rigid, terrible to myself if I did not do all the things to ‘grow,’ dammit. I focused on creating balance and making healthy choices. I used spiritual tools to increase my vibration. My whole life was about trying to get ahead, and yet I was miserably stuck. No amount of ‘self-improvement’ could deal with my fundamental problem. My protective ego was in control of what I thought was important. I was using my tools and education to force the success of my protective ego’s agenda. 

I started getting instant and debilitating migraines while doing Joe Dispenza meditations to manifest my dreams. HAHA! The irony cracks me up. And it’s not Joe’s fault. No tool is inherently good or bad, it is why we use it. Are we taking direction from our Heart and Soul? Are we applying our best education and tools to go TRUE NORTH? Or, are we exerting the will of our protective ego; trying to stay safe, trying to fix ourselves or be good enough, coming from fear, lack, not feeling worthy, reinforcing the unconscious wounds through force and the normalcy of suffering? 

Luckily, I got so stuck that I stopped. It was at this point the usually devious social media algorithms turned sacred for me. They led me to Dr. Gabor Mate. He was speaking about a particular kind of client. I am about to take a massive liberty and describe this in my own way based on myself. 
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Gabor was exploring why this client type so often got sick. I got sick (first with cancer, then with fibromyalgia) because I could not distinguish how I thought I should feel vs. how I actually felt. I couldn’t even identify how I felt! I was, however, consumed with guilt, anxiety, dread, and a constant state of impending doom. I felt bad about myself, shame, I could certainly feel that. But no deeper emotions (pure without story) could come through most of the time. I had suppressed not just my Essential Self, but my most basic and daily needs. I suppressed my right to be upset, to be unhappy, and to take up new space when the old plans, commitments, ‘opportunists,’ or energy vampires were not in my best interest.  

My conditioning was that I was responsible for everyone else, my value existed only in service to them, and that life was hard. The harder my life was, meant the better person I was. The harder I worked,  and the more it was at my expense, the holier I was. Why? I was raised in the multi-generational trauma of Martyr culture, good bless the Irish Catholics and complicated Italian Catholics. 😳 It is a good life for a man to sacrifice his soul for a job or war that destroys him. The woman sacrifices her life for her children, husband and every other family member in need. The men are valued more as autonomous beings, where the women are unconsciously seen as helpers (an extension of her family). She is not seen as her own person with her own calling. Her worth rests solely on what she gives. My conditioning was that life wasn’t normal unless it felt draining, life-less, heavy, a never ending struggle, almost impossible. Why? Because it’s either A. That is just how life is, or B. I am a total failure of a human being. For me it was both.  
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This is just a glimpse into my personal hell when I was living through my conditioned self, taking orders from my protective ego, and disconnected to my Essential Self. Themes of deep insurmountable pain, and the tendency to blame that pain on ourselves or on others, is consistent no matter what our individual stories and coping strategies might be. We are in a victim stage when our protective ego is running our life. This perpetuates our suffering. We cannot be in our power unless we are in our SELF, our TRUE SELF. 

The Solution is True North. It is ALL INSIDE OF YOU. It is getting in contact with your Heart and your Soul. YOU, the REAL YOU, is underneath the never ending drama of the protective ego. Until you take the longest journey of all, from your head to your heart, you are a prisoner. No matter how convincing you sound about the life you are living, you are not free or blessed the way you could be, the way you deserve.

I consider the path to becoming Heart and Soul led to be the same journey as that of a Mystic. While most humans are taught to be more, stronger, better! We Mystics keep finding new layers to let go of. Let go of any and every filter that keeps you from yourself. It is work, (but an entirely different kind of work than building and reinforcing mental constructs). It takes effort, commitment, and not taking no for an answer! It is difficult in the beginning because your protective ego will claim a five alarm fire when it has less control. But the alternative is worse, it's to live as a prisoner to your conditioning. It's feeling like a victim, the protective ego's universal and underlying prospective.

This feeling of victimization about your current challenges prevents you from taking your power. When you are feeling victimized you cannot see the lessons as the opportunities they are, and the new pathways being handed to you. *Domestic Abuse is true victimization, and the perpetrator is to blame. I am not referring to this. 

We also need downtime, not just the Highly Sensitive among us, ALL OF US. Mainstream society is toxic. Collectively we are so burnt out; running from the next thing, to the next, with no possibility to be present in the moment. This is unnatural, not how we are wired, and downright inhumane. It is no way to live. We all need to unhook. We need nature and stillness. We cannot be insanely busy and expect to have any kind of real and lasting peace. Rest baby, rest, you need this in order to hear your Heart and Soul. 

I've been telling everyone who’ll listen, your time is now. It is your time to receive. It is your time to fly. We have entered the beginning of a Golden Age. Many of us spiritual seekers have known we were being prepared for this our whole lives. It is a time for the New Paradigm Healers, Leaders and Teachers to rise. More importantly, it is time for our individual Hearts and Souls to be WELL. It is your birthright to be full of Life-Force. It is your birthright to feel connected with Source; one with the love that links every living being on earth. It is your time to know this in every fiber of your being, not just believe or hope that it is true. ​
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You have to choose to rise. You have to choose to heal, to learn how to feel worthy, to be embodied, and to live from your Heart. Not everyone wants to do the work, though they may be great talkers and pretenders. For those of us who are rising, we have to recognize those who refuse to, and decide how to proceed. 🙏

Miracles are not for the faint of heart. The life you are made for, to thrive in, will only be yours if you choose it. It is NOT promised. You have been given free will, dear human angel. Do you want your miracle? You’ll have to believe in it and yourself, take action, get back up on the horse, (because you’ll be bucked off hard), get the help you need, and don’t look back. It’s faith training. Focus on where you are going. Focus on what is life-giving. Be guided by the cells of your body lighting up, dear love. It's good energy that your body recognizes as your unique path; it resonates. And if you need any help, you know where to find me. 

Are you coming? It’s messy. But all you need is to decide and then show up (do the work) each new day. I have learned that even if I show up and promptly fall on my face, it still counts. If you are terrified but you still show up, you will be just as effective as if you were not scared at all. If you show up but have no idea what to do, hang in there! You're learning a whole new skillset to be led from your Heart and Soul. It gets easier. Again, all you have to do is decide to rise, and show up (do the work). Spirit will take care of the rest. Mountains will be moved for you. For every one step you take toward Spirit, Spirit takes many steps back toward you. If you’re coming, I will see you on the Golden Path. Happy Golden Age!  ☀️ ☀️ ☀️ ☀️ ☀️ ☀️

HOORAH! 
LOVE AODH


Ps. If you are interested in working with me, Coaching, Somatic Healing, Miracle Making, etc, I offer free 20 minute phone consultations. You can read about all my offerings  and schedule a free call by clicking the button below. 

I was stuck too. I turned my head and looked the other way. I was not even conscious of denying Grace. But in all my dysfunction and lost years, the darkness gave me humility. F pride. There had to be a better way. I wanted help. So I got it. And I continue to get it. My needs change and evolve. I am not saying everyone needs a Coach or Somatic Practitioner. Maybe you’ve done more than enough of that. Maybe you prefer groups, nature walks, or books. But whatever you do, CHOOSE YOU. It’s why you came here. It’s worth it. You deserve it. From the moment you choose you, (or choose you AGAIN because we all get lost,) your pain will be the productive kind. Growing pains; you will feel the stretch, agitation, anxiety, discomfort and expansion as you become your Soul’s true size. You’ll feel the grief as you say goodbye to what no longer serves you. You’ve waited, God knows you’ve tried, long and hard enough to turn a no into a yes. Now you’re making room for your Essential Self, and with that comes some benefits:​
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​Grace held out her hand. She took it and said yes, I will come with you. Grace did smile upon her. And she could swear, the Grandmothers laughed with whole belly laughs, danced, and sang.

This is what I assist people with. I work with my clients to move from a fear operating system to a love operating system. The piece above describes how scary it is, how safe you really are, and how much worse it will be if you do not to heal and operate from love.

For thirty years (including my Dark Night lasting over a decade,) I was being prepared to be a testimony and guide for others. Many of the people I am here to support are also meant to be guides with your own testimonies to share. Now is the time for us to find each other. There is a collective urgency that we make our life choices from love. If you feel I am meant to support you on your journey, reach out. Sign up for a free 20 minute Discovery Call or learn more about what I offer. Click the Coaching  button below. If someone you love would resonate with my work, please connect us.

No more suffering in the dark. It is time for everyone to find what we need to rise. I am with you in this, shoulder to shoulder. May you be blessed, emboldened, and follow your heart.  Love Aodh

"We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.” -Excerpt from United States Declaration of Independence. July 4, 1776

Happy Fourth of July Everyone!
I am grateful for the liberties we have in the U.S., and the power we have to preserve our freedom. May you all feel the expansiveness that the healing energy of freedom can bestow. May you feel as capable and powerful as I know each of you to be. May you feel as worthy and beloved as you are, and may you enjoy the heat, R&R, and fun times that a good Summer can bless us with. Let’s go swimming!

Speaking of freedom… in imagining this love letter to you, guess what popped into my head? Oh and advanced warning, welcome to the mind of a Creative, lol. The genie from Aladdin! YUP. ‘I can show you the world.’ Well, the Genie opened the door for Aladdin. Bear with me. From a spiritual perspective those of us spiritually seeking, trying to heal, live empowered  authentic lives, etc (and those of us who feel the call to get started on the Conscious Path), there has NEVER BEEN A MORE POWERFUL TIME TO BE ALIVE. Yes, I hear the news and feel the despair. But I am also watching quiet miracles all around me. I see my friends, family, clients, local community, people I look up to, the incredible next generations, RISING UP and not taking no for an answer. 🗽🗽🗽













We are truly creators! We each have a genie in us, a wise all knowing Higher Self (connection to Spirit/God/morality, etc) that truly wants the best for us. It can’t tell us what to do or take away our fee will, that would be very un American. But it is rooting for us, and connecting us to the higher vibration of love, soul, magic and possibility. And may I be so bold, a 3 wish limit is simply ludicrous.

Every second of the day the universe says “your wish is my command.” No matter what you believe, we are all energetic beings. We always see more of what we focus on. We are creators and destroyers. There is love and fear. How do you want to harness and use this power? I offer you this. See your strength, your intelligence, your worth, the health, freedoms, safe people,  and choices you do have.  This is a foundation you can build on. So Aladdin, What will it be today? Want to be king, solve world peace, win the princess? You decide.

In honor of the fact this is A MAJOR HOLIDAY in one of the busiest vacation weeks of the year, I will attempt to keep this newsletter brief. Oops, may have already failed, lol. But below you will find some links and announcements. I still live and love living in northern Maine, I’m missing on my family and hope to have some quality time with them in the winter, I’m building up my coaching practice and super grateful for that, and am feeling blessed. After many years of struggle I have a foundation of peace I can share with others.
Oh and I have an astrology joke because I can’t help myself. They say those of us with Sagittarius Rising like to pick up and move to a new location every time we have a major shift in our life… that was so true!!!!! HAHA. But now as I have moved one too many times to want to think about that anytime soon, I seem to change my entire website instead. It is (mostly) brand new. I am proud of it and would LOVE YOU TO CHECK IT OUT! www.AodhDolan.com

All my love, Everyone. Happy INDEPENDENCE Day! Happy Summer and may you have a healing, fun and restorative season! 🎆🎇🎆🎇

❤️‍🔥Love Aodh (it’s my legal name now. YEAHHHH.)

The journey is so damn hard sometimes. The more we feel emotionally, the more sensitive and empathic we are, the more we think and know about ourselves, the harder the journey can be. When on the Conscious Path, quality support changes everything. At least, it did for me. You don’t have to do it alone. I provide 1:1 Empowerment and Wellness Coaching, and Somatic Healing.

What the heck is Somatic Healing you may ask?! Somatic Healing is learning how to feel safer in our physical bodies and glean from our body’s wisdom. This way we are not trapped in the suffering of trying to figure out everything in our minds alone. Somatic healing helps us experience our inner guidance, not just conceptualize it.

Want to know more about working with me? Schedule a free 20 minute Discovery Call for a heartfelt conversation about it. Help me understand what you are looking for and we will feel out if Coaching is a good fit. Visit my new Coaching Page to schedule your free call and learn  what you can expect from working together.

SO MANY THINGS ARE BREWING! I will be back in August with a more detailed buffet of high vibe offerings, haha! For now, check out the following:

The Phoenix Club: Empaths Rising  is a group coaching program launching this October over Zoom. A few people have also expressed interest in a local group coaching program. If you want to be added to the list of interested people, let me know! The Making Miracles Program will return to the Gatherings in Surry Maine for January 2025. Early registration will be available soon.

The Alchemy New Moon Circle is meeting this Sunday at 6pm. If you register by midnight the night before you get a SWEET discount, otherwise you can pay at the door.

The New Moon is a perfect time to rest, reset, and tune into your intentions for the month ahead. What do you desire? When we take conscious time to listen we can hear our Heart and Soul’s call. You can expect a diversity of participants and a gentle, positive environment. Everyone is welcome. New people are encouraged to join us!

This Month's Theme:
Second Chances, New Beginnings
& The Great Heart Opening

Bring a journal. Bring a yoga mat if you have one, and anything that makes you more comfortable during an extended meditation and yin healing space.

Cost:
$18 By midnight the night before by REGISTERING HERE
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Clean Up Your Own Mess: Protecting Ourselves From Chronic Takers
As many of you know I have an unofficial PHD in healing from narcissism. As a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) and Empath, who tends to feel WAY TOO responsible for others at my expense, people with narcissistic tendencies came to me like a moth to a flame. If your first thought in reading this is fear you might be a narcissist, HONEY YOU ARE NOT. People with narcissistic tendencies wholeheartedly believe that they are not the problem and are NEVER to blame. This is why it is so difficult to have healthy and equal relationships with them.

I wrote a blog in the winter and quietly published it, because I was not used to writing with that level of an unapologetic tone. But I think it is important to share. This is why. If you are always on empty no matter how hard you try to improve your life, consider the impact of relationships that may be at your expense. As a culture we are becoming aware of the bullying and abusive tactics overtly narcissistic people operate from. But chronic taker patterns whether they are narcissistic or not, can be incredibly COVERT. As energy beings, if someone is always taking and not giving back, this drains us to the point it can be damaging to our self-esteem, self-identity, clarity, faith, confidence, forward momentum in our lives, and our physical and emotional energy. Ultimately our health will deteriorate. We are not made to be used. If you are concerned that some of the people you care about could be draining your life-force, please give this a read.

Does a disproportionate amount of your time go towards people who like to sit in their poopy diaper and complain about it? Whether they are taking through endless talking, habitually falling apart, asking for favor after favor, or actually kind of bragging in a super draining way for you- these are all examples of chronic taking. When the person's behavior makes your body feel bad, this is your personal barometor, you can trust that they are taking too much. Hey, I’ve been there. And, in all humility, I’ve also been the one sitting in a poopy diaper and complaining about it. I try to wear big kid pants now, I mean, I still have my days, I take more than my share. I get stuck in insecurity or self-pity. But I try to recognize it, love myself and the wounds it comes from, and put a timer on my needy behavior. 

In healing we all have periods of great need

We ALL have times of great need, such as when my world fell apart. I sought all the help (and every kind of help!) I could get, to heal myself from PTSD, domestic abuse and the shattered state it left every category of my life. The healing process takes the time it takes. It will not be rushed. It cannot be side stepped without great consequences. I don't know anyone who has not had some kind of dark night of the soul, where feeling stable is just impossible. It's when we truly are in a healing crisis. 

If we are in a period where we just need MORE, there is no shame in that. It is your time to heal, angel. I've been there. In these times, there are healthy ways we can take with consent, (like my best friend knowing I needed more listening space, we checked in about it, I asked if it was ok, and she gave me permission) or through compensation or barter, like paying my therapist and seeing her more frequently, trading services, or a friendship that is mutual because we are in similar stages of need, and neither of us has chronic taker patterns. 

Over the years of working on myself, I've continued to get the help I need. I don't think we are meant to do it alone. One of the best parts about getting sick was I released any shame or pride that I 'should' do it alone. I wanted to live. I knew I could not make it on my own. The help I got saved my life.

I am still, and will always be working on myself. I remain suspicious of anyone who says they are done. It's a big reg flag, LOL. I take responsibility for my own experience and my F-ups to the best of my ability. I have healthy shame when I do F-up. But my biggest issue is an unhealthy and overexagerated amount of guilt. Yes that's right, pervasive, old-trauma fueled, TOTALLY IRRATIONAL, guilt. My biggest struggle is learning how to stop feeling over-responsible for others. Feeling too responsible. 

I’ve learned that in every moment we are either giving or taking. I am not trying to shame myself or anyone else, we are all human. Each of us has unique challenges and adversity. Some of us have been through major traumas. And even if none of that were true, it is natural to both give and take at different times. Balance is important.

In times of stability we all still have needs! 

Needing others in a healthy way, co-regulating, authentic connection, asking for help, it's all absolutely necessary for wellness! Human vulnerability is a strength and the only real way to intimacy. We aren’t meant to be islands; tough, needless and cut off like the Old Paradigm taught. We need each other, it is healthy to need each other. 

We need regular periods to ‘empty our bucket’ and vent in a safe space. But I don’t let myself live in a state of venting (anymore) because that can turn into complaining. I still need to vent a fair amount, but I try to focus on moving forward as quickly as I can. I ask myself 'what can I do to take my power back in this situation?' I take responsibility for myself. I recommit to learning, growing, and making the changes I need so that there is less for me to vent about, in the first place! 🤣

I practice forgiving myself for my errors, and forgiving the people I love. We all make mistakes. I will never be perfect. I don't want any of us killing ourselves, trying to be. I want to spend whatever time I have left in this precious, short and bittersweet life, with those who are also imperfectly human, and also, on a conscious healing path. 🙏

What about when someone is a chronic taker? 

There is a difference between a healthy expression of vulnerability, desire to be appreciated, a favor here and there, vs. a perpetual behavior of crisis, victimhood and/or entitlement.  How do we care for ourselves when someone is going too far? I can’t be party to endless attention seeking in whatever form it takes; bragging, grandiosity, self-absorbtion, negativity, blame, irresponsibility, victimhood, insensitivity, entitlement, self-pity, endless favors or worse 'emergencies', etc. Feel me? And we aren't doing any favors by helping another person keep behaving in these ways. We feed their false self by letting them drain our energy through their chronic taker behavior.

But geez, do I forget my better knowing when someone ‘needs me’. I have been equally disarmed in other cases when a chronic taker with narcissist behaviors, pretends to be my friend, but they feel superior to me. They are only using me to feed their grandiosity. They take my life-force to fuel their false self. Whether flailing in emotional need, always asking for something, tricky shades of manipulation, or complete falsity, chronic takers often seem genuine. And for almost everyone, there is a genuine need, it's just not my responsibility. I can see their beautiful, gorgeous Soul shining underneath the crazy making dynamic. But they don't! Their insatiable need is NOT mine to deal with. No amount of me trying to lift them up will encourage them to *WANT* to help themselves. Why would they? I (and others) are enabling them, making them feel better, carrying their burdens and lifting their false self up so well. It’s time to recognize their behavior just STINKS, and so does my self-sacrificing, self-betraying and self-abandoning, codependence. 

More often than not, in fact since I was a child, I’ve been the one listening and listening, listening…… and LISTENING. When someone is fully engaged in their own desire to heal, whether they are my friend, family or client, it is an enlivening, heart opening, and totally incredible experience for me to support them. I was born to listen in those moments. It fills me up in a sacred way. But when someone is looking to be ‘right’, 'justified' or any kind of help from a disempowered place, it hurts me to give. And I am finally understanding how much it hurts them too. When I get lost trying to help them, I am dumping all of my life-force down the drain. I get so empty it even got me sick. I’ve struggled with my physical health ever since I partnered with someone who was an abusive, rare and dangerous extreme of an energy vampire. She did not have a conscious. Now, I would recognize someone dangerous like that a football field away.  My new task is healing my pattern of cleaning up crap from the more common and less dangerous, BUT STILL, REALLY? 'I don't want to clean up my own poop' garden variety, taker behavior. And believe you, me,  I am getting stronger and a better sense of humor, every day! 😁🤣🤦🏻‍♂️

The only way I will help myself in the next stage of my life is some PHD level boundaries. As a Highly Sensitive Person and Empath, this is not just codependence in my case. I can feel another’s suffering to such an extent I have actually absorbed their illnesses.  When I would discover a loved one going through that exact physical affliction my body was mirroring, my 'illness' would dissipate. I realized it was not mine. I can feel what emotional state someone I am connected to is experiencing. When they are withdrawn in grief or shame, when they are anxious, when they are feeling bad for themselves, if they are wanting me to reach out and resenting that I am not, I can feel it. I can feel my loved one's emotional states through state lines with no physical ‘evidence’. But I know.

There is an innocent and ancient part of my Soul, that simply cannot fathom love and light would not heal ANY human in pain. What a bitter pill to swallow, nobody heals unless they want to, unless they CHOOSE TO. But I am wired to love. I came here to love. I am learning how to recognize and prioritize people who can love me back. Setting boundaries with, or walking away from, those who are just chronically taking, is still hard for me. 

It’s difficult to face when these incredible, beautiful, intelligent, and sometimes even highly spiritual people, whom we TRULY LOVE, don’t want to take off their own dirty diaper. What they do want is to spend our precious time and energy complaining about it, or telling us it is all in our imagination. They temporarily feel better when they have our energy. But they have every intention to stay where they are, they'll just call us (or someone else) back when they need another human hit. What helps me is this fact: If I reduce myself to being their latest fix, I am actually helping them stay stuck, and I am hurting us both. 

We all have a moment when it is time to make a choice. Here were some of my choices: 

• Am I going to rescue myself instead of  trying to rescue others? 

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• Am I going to find the courage to be the healing change I need, for myself? 

 

• Am I going to find the strength to NOT take no for an answer, when it comes to my non-negotiables?

 

• Am I going to DECIDE to be a priority in my own life and stop putting other people above me?

 

• Am I taking responsibility for myself while also NOT taking over-responsibility for others? 

Now here is my FINALE:

• Am I going to walk away from people when they are using me??!

It starts by recognizing that this is happening. Yes, I see their heart, but I must also see their current behavior. The way to recognize if someone is using you, or taking an unhealthy amount from you, is listening to how your body feels, NOT what they are saying. 🙏🙏🙏

We ALL deserve more than adult poopy diapers. It's not a good look for any of us. We all deserve to grow up fully and expect the adults closest to us to also behave like grown-ups. Our wellbeing MATTERS. Let’s make the changes necessary to go from survival to thriving. One of the steps I missed in all my years of hard work, (the missing ingredient that I could not rise without,) was by letting myself be close to people who were NOT committed to their own healing and growth. They were saying, or doing just enough, to make me think that they were. Letting these people be close to me, more than anything else combined, held me back in old stress responses and survival patterns.
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For some of us, that life altering deciding moment, (the one where things really do start to get better,) is in setting boundaries. I am having this moment now. It's been a process and feel me on this, I'm at critical mass. As wise people say, enough is enough. ​
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I had to wrestle with some demons this Fall, let me tell you! Oh how our biggest demons sleep when we don’t challenge them by breaking their order, getting out of our comfort zone where it counts, following our hearts, dreams even, oh my goodness. 😅

Right when all my demons came out to remind me that sleeping was not the same thing as ‘we’re done,’ the world seemed to come apart in my community and as a whole. Hamas brutally attacked Israel…. And now 11 weeks later, Israel’s retaliation and full-scale war has left over 20,000 Palestines dead. Much to my greatest dismay, America continues to be Israel’s biggest support. I am not trying to get political here, forgive me. But this has affected me greatly. I was a mess and will reflect on that in a minute. 

I am grappling with how to step up as a humanitarian in the ways that are in integrity with my Soul. I know these old paradigm ways need to be stopped. As a healer, teacher and coach - here to hold space for our personal and collective evolution into consciousness- I must state my truth, war is unjustifiable. Human slaughter and genocide is unthinkable. I should not be silent just because I think it is obvious. To my greatest shock after all these centuries, clearly, it is not. ​
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​A couple weeks after Israel invaded Palestine, here in Lewiston, we suffered a mass shooter in Maine. He killed 18 innocent people. We, the tiny, little, peaceful state that didn’t think it could happen to us.  

And on a more personal level, I was hit hard by the break of a profound connection and my familiar lesson I can never save another person. I am also heartbroken by a community trauma that is still unfolding. They are evicting someone who is vulnerable from my small town, apartment community. Much of the community is turning their backs on him in scorn, when what he needs is help. I have been asking myself big questions- what could have I done differently in and for this community, to have created a more healing outcome? How could I have helped my troubled friend without feeling over responsible for him or anyone else in this situation? How did I let fear stop me from doing more? ​

I remember a brilliant newsletter by Dannielle Laporte years back, lamenting on the irony of healing. I will put her point into my own words. Here as I moved to the sanctuary of Northern Maine back in April, where I go to sleep with the stars and where the grocery stores get quiet after 5pm, where I can drive my car on cruise control through the hills, and where I have continued my personal healing and purification work layer after layer… I have found more peace. I have become more still. And, I have never felt MORE sensitive! WTF? It feels like a strange irony… I have had to take days off to cry for others, when all I can feel is their pain. Because it is my pain too. It’s the pain of what humanity has co-created up until this point, me included, all of us. It does not feel like it, no, but this is the nature of healing. We start to experience ourselves as profoundly connected. When we take the fortress of our protective ego down, (and sometimes even DESPITE our greatest wall building efforts not to 😉🙏) our hearts let everything in, love and empathy pours out of us. There is no separation. We feel EVERYTHING. We are everything. ❤️

Take heart if life is getting to you more, if the world’s, your community’s, your family’s, your significant other’s pain feels like yours (while keeping codependency in check of course!) Take heart if your own personal pain is as about unbearable as it ever was. You are not alone. And God knows it is TOUGH! And, it can be a sign of healing. It’s a sign we are coming back into embodiment with our true selves first off, and then coming together. It’s a sign that we are rejecting the old ways of fear, separation, blame, shame, bullying, numbness, addiction (and the great atrocities these energies can lead to if left unaddressed.) We are rejecting these old ways in our own bodies. It just doesn’t feel right anymore. We can’t stand by it. It is not sustainable to go on this way. Our collective is rising, there is a Phoenix in all of us. Here is my guidance, my love, my support, and my solidarity. I’m with you in this. ❤️‍🔥 Aodh ​

As an Empowerment Coach, and a Nationally Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach, not only have I made it my life’s work to turn my own personal journey into assistance for yours,  I also have years of experience working with clients, as well as training and education on how to help you identify what is calling you, and how to feel more safe, clear, resourced, confident and capable of creating the positive and healing changes you long for. 

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And lastly if you are still with me, considering I have some gifts, email brevity is not one of them, 😅😁🤣!  Thank you for your continued support! Thank you from the bottom of my heart.  When you read my work I can feel you, I feel your support. Please know I am with you, side by side on this crazy trip. ❤️

May you have a blessed and happy holidays!

❤️‍🔥 Aodh 

PS. I have one class and event booking now, stay tuned for the complete Winter schedule in January’s Newsletter. Happy New Year! 🎉

It is spiritual strength training, it is stepping into the only thing that is real. We are all worthy of love. It is time to make a stand for love. It is time to let the vibration of love run our lives personally, and collectively. Love does not sit back and practice wishful thinking. That is not what I am talking about. Love stands up inside of unthinkable odds. We can all stand up in our own ways, the ways we are each uniquely wired for.

In my tiny life, I am finally teaching classes, even though "I am afraid I am not ready." I am trying to create hope and connection in every moment I can. I am working overtime to not give in to FEAR. And I am having some epic fails, LOL!! 😅😳, but then I get up again. I am in this with you. 🙏

And a special note to the spiritually inclined, Empaths, and HSPs (Highly Sensitive People.) As Sensitives, we were born with open hearts, and innately understanding energy. We are a healing vibration. Get out of your head and trust your energy now more than ever. We are needed to role-model how to love, and how to BE LOVE. If that feels impossible and crazy right now I GET IT. It is darkest before the dawn. The intensity dial is up! This is because the TRUTH OF LOVE IS FINALLY SETTING. the collective consciousness is coming together in the TRUTH. You know how to do this intuitively. Get support, take extra good care of yourself, and help those around you in a healthy way, one that doesn't drain your life force. You are the new leaders in this new dawn. Step up. Our time is now. We've got this BABY! 🔥💪❤️

Next week I have a couple  Zoom classes starting. I am teaching how to create positive change in our lives using the power and healing energy of love. One is designed for people of all experiences, such new to coaching, self development and working with healing vibration. We will have such fun! Life won't be the same with this knowledge that all humans deserve.  Another class is  especially for Sensitives and those who've done a lot of inner work. We have unique challenges, like massive over thinking! I KNOW, ME TOO. 😉😁🤣 HAHAHA.  join us, Wayshower. The time of the Lone Wolf is over.

❤️‍🔥Love Aodh

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